I heard a brilliant thing several years ago from (yes, one of my favorites) Dave Ramsey. Think about the international sign of anger, the closed fist. It doesn’t really matter where you are, you close your hand and make a fist at someone; and it is interpreted as anger.
Conversely if you have an open hand, around the world, it is seen as an offering. Hold the door open with one hand, and gesture with your hand open for someone to go thru; you are offering passage. If you have food at your table and you want to share, you motion to it with an open hand.
Dave talks about this idea with money. People want to hold on tightly to their money, like with a fist. But, when you hold on too tightly so that no money gets out of your hand, no more can get in your hand either.
The same seems to be true with most things in life. When you hold on too tightly to things, things never seem to get better. When you hold on to anger, suspicion, and bad things of the past; then it is hard for you to be happy, trusting (of those that prove themselves worth), and to have happier things happen.
I’ve been there. I’ve had people try to destroy me. Hey, there’s still some people that wouldn’t mind having a go of it. And there were a few times in life when I held on to that anger, betrayal, and un-trust. It got me no where. It did not change the situation. It stole my peace. It stole my joy. And it turned me in to someone that I did not like.
Tonight I am thankful that we always have the chance to choose. We can choose to forgive, and proceed in peace. We can let go of the feelings that we hold on to so tightly because we think we need an “edge” to stay on our toes. We can go forward with wisdom, discretion, and integrity; staying open to life and letting good things come in. That’s what I’m choosing. It’s hard. It’s a choice to make over and over and over again. But just like a closed fist versus an open hand; it will let a lot more good things flow in life.