Mentality

I had a great conversation with a friend tonight.  She has noticed something that I’ve noticed also, the mentality that surrounds being confident.

There is definitely a difference between being confident and being arrogant.  I get arrogant at times, usually sarcastically to be funny – and usually only in conversations with my mom or husband, because they know me.  But to some, confidence and arrogance are the same.

This mentality that humbleness has to be void of any acknowledgement to one’s work and achievements is ridiculous.  A synonym of humble is meek or respectful; it is NOT quiet or denial.  There is a difference.

I am very proud of the hard work that I have put in to things.  I am very proud of my accomplishments in life.  Do I talk about these things?  Yes, not at all the time; but especially I do when I feel stories of the work and accomplishments may benefit someone.  Do I talk about these things to make others feel lesser?  Absolutely not.  I am not that special.  Anyone could work hard and accomplish things.  Sometimes I think, if I share my story; maybe it may inspire someone else to work hard too.

I have been accused of being arrogant.  Absolutely.  Why the accusations?  Because my confidence sometimes makes others uncomfortable.  Does that make me wrong?  No.  I don’t think so.  If me, being respectfully and politely myself makes someone else uncomfortable; that is not my fault.  If me, being rudely and unfiltered myself makes someone else uncomfortable; then it is my fault.  I am responsible for being respectful and polite.  I am not responsible for someone else’s reaction to my story when I convey it respectfully and politely.

Tonight I am thankful for unapologetic confidence!  My friend, (I hope you read tonight) have every right to be proud of yourself!  You have worked hard and continue to work hard!  Don’t let anyone tell you any different!

 

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