There’s a philosophy going around that a person has to be a certain way to excel at certain things in life.
Parenting is a great example. I am a person who sometimes talks too much. I see these other moms who can keep their mouths closed. And I think, hmm, that’s just not my strong suite. So I know that it is not a natural talent of mine.
But I work on it for my kids. There are many times that a kid needs their mom to be quiet. There are some things they have to learn for themselves; or they just won’t learn it. So although, I’m not naturally an all around quiet person, I put forth extra effort for my kids.
There are things that I don’t naturally like. There are many social settings that just aren’t for me. And overall, I do not work on this for my kids. Why? It really won’t effect who they turn out to be! This idea that all the moms have to sit together and chat while the kids do their thing is based on the assumption that all the moms WANT to sit together and chat. I don’t. I’d rather play with the kids. And that’s ok. I don’t mind it who I am at all.
But I see some moms really get down on themselves because other moms do this or that. And they don’t.
The bottom line is that we are all different. If you have a personal weakness that is going to effect your kid in a negative way, then you work on doing better. If you have a personal thing that won’t put your kid in therapy in years to come, then own it! Why not? Is there not a better way to show your kid that who they are is just perfect, just they are; than to be that way yourself? Remember more is caught than taught.
Tonight I am thankful that somewhere along the way of parenthood and life; I’ve been learning what things about me are wonderfully ME and what parts of me are weaknesses that should be worked on. Deciding those categories is a personal decision that no one can make for you; because you know yourself better than anyone! I hope you know that you are wonderful just how you are! And the things you may decide to improve on are things that are your decision alone!